"People develop addictions to shield themselves from intolerably painful feelings. An addiction always creates harmful, often ignored consequences. Only when the addiction becomes unmanageable will people do something about it".
As a senior Accredited Psychosexual Therapist and Sex/porn addiction specialist, I am a Professional member of ATSAC
Some conditions I work with are;
- Partners of Men using sex compulsively, that want to understand and heal themselves
- Sex/Porn/masturbation Addiction, (Camming, hook-up sites, affairs, escorts)
- Consensual Non Monogamy e.g. Polyamory
- Kink (clients may mention Kink and some may have a concern about kink)
- Fetishes (common and unusual and could be problematic in a relationship)
- Paraphelias (intense sexual urges or behaviours different from societal norms)
- Sexual orientation OCD, you fear you are another orientation, than your own
Definition: Sex addiction isn’t defined by how often you have sex or how many partners you’ve had. It’s defined by loss of control: a persistent pattern of sexual behavior you can’t stop despite wanting to, even when it damages your health, relationships, career, or finances. Roughly 5% of adults worldwide meet the criteria for what clinicians now call compulsive sexual behavior disorder (CSBD), with estimates ranging from 2% to nearly 9% depending on the country.
Working with Sexual Addiction: Compulsive use of internet porn, affairs, camming, escorts, can become out of hand, this includes females and young adults too. Partners, children, parents and employers of those addicted can be affected. Individuals can find their sexual behaviour confusing and worrying but may be unable to stop. What started off as an occasional porn surf, can easily become a relentless task master, taking too much of your time and leaving you drained of emotions and unable to engage in important relationships or meaningful activities. Approaching your GP (who usually don't know about sexual problems), particularly if you are female, may be scary and embarrassing.
